let's review:
first boyfriend, the Outcast: dated from March 1999-May 1999 (9th grade!!!). broke up with him b/c he wanted to put his hand up my shirt and he wasn't a Christian (said i was weak because i was a Christian).
singleness: lasted from May to July, approximately 2 months.
second boyfriend, the Jock: dated from July 1999-February 2000. broke up a few days before Valentines. found out he was dating someone new one week later.
singleness: lasted from Feb 2000 to May 2000, approximately 2 months.
third boyfriend, the Heart-Throb: dated from March 2001-March 2002. but we practically dated from May 2000 to April 2002. he was my first real love, but he was too needy, and unfortunately, now he's a tool! why do the good ones go rotten?
singleness: lasted from April 2002 to June 2002, approximately 2 months.
fourth boyfriend, the OverKill Christian: dated from June 2002-September 2002. i knew he was an outspoken conservative Christian when we met, but seriously, you have never seen someone so naive to the real world. broke up with him over dinner in the cafeteria at college.
singleness: lasted from September 2002 to January 2003, approximately 4 months.
fifth boyfriend, i.e. the Unhusband: dated from 2003 to 2005, got engaged, engaged for a year, then married in June 2006. married for a year and 4 months, ended October 2007. total togetherness: 5 years almost.
singleness: lasted from October 2007 to March 2008, approximately 5 months (which was best because i was a MESS)
sixth boyfriend, the Depresso: dated from March 2008 to May 2008. i think he was definitely my "rebound" boyfriend. what was i thinking? i knew nothing about him!
currently single after that lame break-up.
do you notice the pattern that i do? i am usually only single for 2-4 months and then i'm off the market indeterminably. i recognized this pattern and shared my concern with my ever-so-fabulous roommate Carla, and we both think it might be interesting for me to be single for a while, just to see what happens.
i never really thought i was one of those women who "doesn't like to be alone", but looking at that pattern, it makes me feel like a cheesy, overly dependent wuss-woman. i'm kind of excited to see what i can come up with when left to my own devices for more than a few months.........and it's kind of nice to keep my options open for a bit. it doesn't mean i won't enjoy the men that are in my life, but i just won't be tying myself down for a while.
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I have a similar pattern. I was with a hs boyfriend through hs, met my first college bf a few weeks into school. Then met my first love at 19 and dated until almost 21. Dated a rebound after a 2 month or so hiatus. Then met my ex husband. Now had been sort of seeing someone from a distance. Maybe I need to NOT date AT ALL??
So...I feel ya.
At least you had boyfriends! I didn't really have any boyfriends at all through high school... I was very shy. And then my husband (soon to be ex) I married right out of high school... so I have no experience whatsoever in the dating world... I'm not really looking forward to the whole dating thing.
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